About Vanessa

I write mediocre streams of consciousness about real life.

Kindness and love live here.

Single-mom to an amazingly brave redhead, living his truth.


Yoga lover.

Sun worshiper.

Florida State University football fan.

Happiness creator.

Student of life.




LGBTQ Activist.

If you’re here because you googled my name after reading some sensationalized British media bullshit about how I’m raising my child, please click here first to read my side of the headlines.

I hope you enjoy the rest of my writings, too!

Thank you for visiting!


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My writing has also been featured on BLUNTmoms.com.



The first time I was ever published online, BonBonBreak.com.
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One of my favorite posts I wrote was published on Elephant Journal.
See my honest post about infidelity on Thought Catalog.

6 thoughts on “About Vanessa”

  1. I’m a 60 yr old, born again Christian, a wife, a mom, a Gramma, a stepmom, a loyal woman, who would never betray anyone. I love too deeply and am still naive enough not to be able to see people using me. I fell in love with DOOL in 1972. In 1984, I fell for Bo! Then, this guy with a patch on his eye, came on! My, oh, my! He was handcuffed to a couch, alone with Hope. She was eating, and in the moment, he said, ‘Feed me, baby’ I melted! And, I have still got that feeling as I recall that scene today. You are a shining example of how young or old parents should behave, if put in your shoes. I can’t say I’d have the grace and patience you have displayed. I’d be proud to call you my daughter.


  2. I read and put comment about your letter about teachers. Thanks.
    I only have one thing that I hate being called: A Babysitter! We do not babysit but nurture children. We are educated, smart and make hundreds of quick dicisions every day.
    Just my two cents!
    Thanks for reading,


    1. Thanks, Bernadette. That was not intended to be an insult. I meant it as one of the ten million hats you were all at once. It was nothing more than a metaphor. I apologize you took offense to it. Thanks for reading.


  3. Vanessa, thank you so much for acknowledging the many hats that teachers wear. I am a retired elementary teacher. I taught for 33 years & loved every minute of it. I love children & felt confident every day with the skills I was equipped with. If I had to carry a weapon I wouldn’t have
    chosen this profession. I feel if the President & Congress of the U.S. were doing their job they would not be asking teachers to carry concealed weapons. They have given too much power
    to the leadership of the NRA to promote the sale of weapons. Even their members want gun reform. Thank God for these young leaders that have had their innocence snatched from them
    by the horrible carnage they witnessed. What did they decide to do with their incredible sorrow &
    anger….. TO ACT! Very unlike our national leaders who have seen this go on for years. I applaud them! I hope we will all get behind them & realize they have now become “the adults in
    the room”.


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