Dear Australia, You’re Winning at Life

As some of you may or may not know, Australia  recently denied pop singer Chris Brown access to a travel visa for his upcoming tour based off of his “bad character”. Read: beating women.

A-fucking-Men, Aussies. Finally, a country that gives a shit about setting some precedents against domestic violence.

People need to understand — if you are going to commit domestic violence and then you want to travel around the world, there are going to be countries that say to you, ‘You cannot come in because you are not of the character that we expect in Australia,'”– Minister for Women, Michaelia Cash 

I’m certain that domestic violence lives in Australia. It lives everywhere. I’m not suggesting it doesn’t, however, it’s so very wonderful that they don’t promote it. Props to Canada, too, as they were the first country documented to deny Brown entry to their country for similar reasons.

I recall when the news broke about Chris Brown beating up his famous girlfriend, Rhianna, in 2009; it caused quite the uproar. Radio stations were banning his music, fans turned against him, and every media outlet reported the story.

That was six short years ago. Today, I still hear his {shitty} music on these same radio stations that had him banned and I’m still seeing him, not only performing on awards shows but also receiving awards. How quickly we all forgive and forget.

And why shouldn’t we?

I can list a dozen or more celebrities that have been accused of domestic violence and we have all turned a blind eye. In some of cases, a few have even publicly admitted it, some, even worse, sang a little tune about it and made a few million bucks off of it. I’m looking at you, Marshall Mathers.

Why aren’t we, here in America, more concerned with the likes of Eminem and those in his company beating their women? Such as:

-Dr. Dre’s history of abusing his significant others.

-Jay-Z rapping about being Ike Turner and essentially mocking the abuse his wife endured.

-Too many NFL players to list arrested and convicted of domestic violence.

Legendary boxing champ Floyd Mayweather’s documented history of beating his wife.

Those are just a few examples of famous public figures that have made major, national headlines for violence against women. Imagine how many women are suffering in silence because, after all, abusers aren’t wearing some sort of scarlet letter.

Why aren’t we more concerned? Because these people are our idols. No other country assigns value to celebrities and famous athletes like Americans do. None.

To set these types of precedents against domestic violence offenders would be publicly shaming and dismissing our very own idols. So, instead, we excuse their behavior. We justify and say that their personal lives do not impact their professional lives. We make excuses and we move on, supporting them, affording them their million dollar lifestyles.

The danger in this should be obvious given that the statistics speak loudly, such as the fact that more than 4,000 women are killed per year by their partners and that 1 out of 3 women will be abused by their partners, but clearly, it needs to be explained.

The danger, fellow Americans, is that there are children watching. These offenders are also idols of children and we are sending them all a message that beating up their partners is totally acceptable. Not only is it acceptable but you can make millions of dollars and not pay any consequences, providing you have the right skill set. We are perpetuating violence. We are accepting of it and allowing it to continue each time we purchase a ticket to Dr. Dre’s new movie or a subscribe to a pay-per-view match featuring Mayweather or even tune into some Sunday football.

Children of abusers often become abusers themselves without any intervention, so as if that wasn’t enough, we as a society are sending them a message that this is widely socially acceptable to commit the crime. Think of the millions of teenagers that witnessed Rhianna’s post-beating photos smattered all over the media, yet, these same kids are still able to go on iTunes and purchase Chris Brown’s latest album. That is a clear message that what Brown did was acceptable. Sure, he was “punished” with probation but there were no true consequences for him. His money continues to roll in.

Except, Australia. He can’t enter into their country. His Australian fans cannot see him perform. There are disappointed fans there, I’m sure of it. Yet, that is a message. A message that’s clear in it’s delivery that pummeling another human being in the face is not a desirable character trait. A message that their country will not tolerate or support such an act. It’s a tangible consequence.

We can certainly learn so much from our mates Down Under. Let’s start sending powerful messages like this right here in America.

Cheers, Australia.

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Additional facts on domestic violence:

http://www.ncadv.org/learn/statistics

https://www.dosomething.org/facts/11-facts-about-domestic-and-dating-violence

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